By Paige Tapia of The Bridal Suite & Special Occasion
You cannot believe he finally popped the question. Brain is racing – stay calm. It’s going to be fine. You will live through wedding planning. And the best part? Someone’s getting a wedding dress – and that someone is YOU!
Suddenly your brain says you have to lose 10 pounds IMMEDIATELY! You quickly jump onto Pinterest and realize that these designers are from Europe and you can’t even afford to pay attention, let alone afford that French designer’s newest Bohemian-inspired nature princess gown. What are you going to do? You are going to keep reading – that’s what!
Let’s start with “Who” – Who are you picking this dress for?
Are you buying a wedding dress/bridal gown (depending on your level of inner Disney Princess) for your family members? Of course not! The first person you are buying for is YOU. You are the one that has to wear it all day, take a million pictures in it, spill champagne and drop red velvet cake on it.
The second person to keep in mind when shopping would be your fiancé. After all, you’re not promising to love and to cherish until death do you part anyone else are you? I cannot tell you how many times I’ve asked the question “What would your fiancé want to see you in?” And the answer I get back is “I don’t care” or “he doesn’t care”. I bet he does and you might want to care too – a little anyway. Yes, he does just want you to just show up. But he is most likely hoping that you look sexy and alluring too. And if you really want him to mean until death do we part, you better look hot and stay cool, because he’s already sweating bullets.
And yes, mom and dad are usually paying, but they expect to, so get that wild idea out of your head. Mom does not get to choose for you.
Next is “When” – When should you shop for a wedding dress?
That’s an easy answer – yesterday! A last season dress can take up to four months to special order in your particular size and color choice. A more embellished gown, the season’s hottest fashion trend or a special modification can take up to 9 months to arrive! By the time any additional alterations are done, you will be glad you didn’t wait.
Actually choosing your dress first can make wedding planning much easier. Once you have the dress, the concept seems to become clearer. If you buy your dress last minute, you could risk changing a lot of things. Your informal nuptials in the woods suddenly becomes a semi-formal church-first ceremony. And those bridesmaid’s dresses you told everyone to “buy lime green in any style” now clashes with your blush colored gown. You do not want that headache and neither does your wedding party!
Next up is “What” – What kind of dress should I buy?
The type of dress you should buy depends on a few key questions – where is my wedding, how much do I want to spend and how important is the dress to me in the first place.
Some gals have been waiting their whole life for this moment. They drew selfie-princesses in balls gowns with big puffy sleeves and had a wedding portfolio by the time they were 12. Other gals want to walk down the aisle in a church in a traditional white dress. Others have been dreaming of an outdoor ceremony next to the waterfall where he proposed, wearing a sexy fit and flair. And some ladies dream of a beach wedding where they shared their first couple’s vacation. Of course she’s wearing nothing but a sheath and a smile in this wedding dream! Whatever the case, the location can really determine the style, weight, color and fabric of the gown.
The budget can obviously be a determining factor. However if you shop with an experienced consultant, they can help you find the look you’ve been dreaming of within your budget. By adding a sparkle belt here or a necklace there, you can complete your look without breaking the bank.
The meaning of the dress can take on many forms. To some ladies, this is the most important and intricate part of the ceremony and that’s great! To others it’s just something to wear to walk toward the love of her life. You alone have to decide what meaning the dress has to you. Just decide and stick to it.
You’re almost wedding dress educated…hang in there with me for Part 2 coming soon!